How sheer grit, determination and passion helps single mother turn life around

From being a single mum and working five jobs to make ends meet to becoming the owner of many successful businesses, Dairy Link UK’s Barbara Griffiths has certainly had her fair share of ups and down. However, despite the bumps in the road, she has never given up, with sheer grit and determination leading to her success.

Speaking at the Women in Dairy Conference sponsored by HSBC this week (28 September), Barbara explained how her motivation to continue came from necessity in the beginning.

Having a ‘can do’ attitude

"I've always had a little bit of 'I can do it myself' attitude, and I think that's something that runs in the family. My grandma owned a sweet shop and two of my aunties had their own businesses, so I came from a family of very strong women.”

In 1998, a chance meeting with a former employer and colleague gave Barbara the first steps into the dairy industry, taking on a role as School Milk Facilitator for the School Milk Research Project. Although it was only on a ten-month contract, Barbara took the gamble and moved from the lift company where she was working.

"It meant I could work 10 hours a week less, but for more money. This allowed me time to work five other jobs to help make ends meet. I needed to keep my house; it was my children’s home and it was this necessity that drove me to do five jobs," she says.

At her lowest point, Barbara recalls the boiler bursting and having to heat pans of water for herself and her daughters’ every morning for school and work for around 9 months of the year over the winter months as she couldn't afford to have the boiler replaced, also borrowing oil filled radiators for heating.

Barbara's job as School Milk Facilitator catapulted her into the dairy industry. She was successful at what she did, helping work with dairies to get milk into schools.

Spurred on by a job she loves

"It was a job I found so rewarding and being able to help little children spurred me on. For example, some children were being sent to school without breakfast. You could see that their parents were doing their best, so the mid-morning milk scheme was a necessity for those children."

Since that first foray into the dairy industry, Barbara has dedicated her working life to helping facilitate milk in schools.

She worked for Tetrapak where she grew milk consumption in schools in England and Wales, and then went on to look after the education side of the business for ACC Milk Cooperative and then Dairy Farmers of Britain (DFOB). At DFOB, she was promoted to Head of Local Government Procurement completing and submitting all the Local Education Authority tenders for milk into schools.

Turning a negative into a positive

When DFOB went into receivership, Barbara was made redundant, but she used the opportunity to develop a much-needed service to help small dairies and milkmen to be part of big tenders for local authority and school milk contracts by setting up Dairy Link.

"Milkmen in Northumberland contacted me and asked if I would tender for them. So that was the start, and I slowly grew from there, with support from the supplying dairy and distributors.”

Battling the challenges

However, setting up her own business was not without its challenges. Over the first few years, Barbara admits the company struggled with several knockbacks and financial strains, eventually leading to her accepting a loan from a major competitor.

"I had an extensive knowledge of school milk and working with school caterers, so I knew I could make it work. But I still had a mortgage to pay and being dog-minded meant I didn't want anyone to get the better of me."

Barbara says she did tender after tender and had to jump through hoops, with many unsuccessful results. This was mainly because she had no ‘backing’ and history of trading, which was disheartening after the countless days she spent working on them.

However, the turning point came when she gained a place as a nominated supplier on a huge framework contract for TUCO (The University Catering Organisation) which then opened doors to several Local Education Authority contracts.  That allowed her to grow the team and she now employs seven people.  Following on from this in 2017 came the success of winning the Hertfordshire contract which was when she eventually received full recognition in the industry from many of her male counterparts.  “I won the Hertfordshire Contract from Muller, which was quite an achievement for such a small business as ours”.

Today’s achievements

She now has contracts for a range of councils serving milk to 55,000 children daily and working with hundreds of milkmen nationally.

She has also since established a sister company, Milk4Life, which claims government money for free school milk. She also started a milk round in lockdown, bought a café in South Wales and is now starting a small business making Staffordshire oatcakes.

She adds: "There certainly have been many challenges over the years, but I've always been driven to succeed in business and life, trying to break down any barriers that I came across and to ensure that my daughters had a good future to look forward to”.

“My advice to anyone struggling is not to give up. Instead, sit down and examine what the positives are in your life, what money you need to bring in and focus on those positives and how you can get out of the mess.

"Many people may think they've lost, and things can spiral down. Don't go down that path. Keep your visions going and talk to people that can help you. Believe in yourself," she adds.

Communication Tools to Help Better Motivate Farm Staff

Staff communication will be central as farmers embrace change on their farms as the Basic Payment Scheme (BPS) is phased out.   

Leading psychologist Dr Hannah Vickery told delegates at this year's Women in Dairy Conference on 28 September at Churchfields Farm that effective communication was essential to retain staff and keep them motivated. 

Often communication can be difficult on working farms due to small teams, pressured workloads and individuals who have been working on the farm a long time. 

However, she said whilst farmers can't control others, they can control the communication and influence the 'workplace culture, which will be important as change happens. 

"Workplace culture is created by the farmer but is sustained by the team. Power all your staff to influence the workplace culture," she said. 

Motivating staff to change 

Keeping staff motivated and motivating them to make change involves:  

1. Clear instructions and rationale

2. Demonstration- show others how to do things- first follower experience 

3. Having a position of authority

4. Being likeable 

5. Encouragement and positive reinforcement- this can often be one of the first things to disappear under stress. She said: "You can never give enough praise."

6. Compassion

7. Constructive criticism- this should be improvement focused and involves telling the person what 'right' looks like.

When giving feedback, Dr Vickery told delegates to encourage self-reflection by asking the person how they thought they were doing. She then said to compare and contrast your feedback with their reflections. 

She said, "Use the words 'we' and 'us' a lot as well as how and why questions to try and keep things positive. Also, do not use the words 'but or however' and instead use 'and'. " 

She said constructive criticism should always start with an example of praise with 'and' used to share the area of improvement. For example, "What you're doing is great and I think you need to do this as well." 

Fact, Feel, Want example

She also suggested delegates use the Fact, Feel and Want principle'.  

This is a simple way to be assertive and involves stating a fact, followed by how that action made you feel and what you want that person to do. "This is one of the best communication tools in the world," she said. 

She gave an example of how to approach a conversation if a staff member is consistently late. 

"On four mornings last week, I didn't see you before 5.30am. I'm feeling concerned (about you and for others). I would like it if you could prioritise getting here at 5am every day next week."

Understanding employees' personal motivation is also key to keeping the team motivated.

"Understand that people's extrinsic motivations (external motivations) change with age. For example, younger people are more motivated by financial rewards, but with an ageing industry, it's important to think outside of the money box," she said. 

Dr Vickery told the 115 delegates in the room that if they had staff that looked like they were 'sucking lemons' to come up with some ideas. She said: "Call it 'project lemon'. Ask the team to come up with solutions to make work better. It invites humour, shared experience, for example."

This year's Women in Dairy Conference, sponsored by HSBC also included motivational talks from Dairy Link's Barbara Griffiths; Vet Tech Meg Lawrence; Boehringer Ingelheim's Becca Cavill; Defra's Fran Edmunds and HSBC's Grace O Dywer. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

About Women in Dairy and RABDF

Women in Dairy is an RABDF initiative, designed to bring women working in the dairy industry together through regional discussion group meetings. The aim is to connect women, share knowledge, develop skills, and inspire by encouraging innovative thinking and vision for the future of UK dairy.

RABDF is the sole UK charity focussed on the unique needs of milk producers. They are the only dairy organisation holding a Royal Warrant, with the influence and access to funding that brings.

Last Minute Change of Venue for Women in Dairy Conference

Next week's Women in Dairy Conference on 28th September is now taking place at Churchfields Farm, Droitwich, less than 10 minutes from the original venue at Sixways Stadium in Worcester.

The venue change comes following a last-minute cancellation by Sixways Stadium, with reports suggesting the Rugby Club was in financial difficulties.

The new venue is located 3.5 miles from the original venue and is easily accessible from the M5. Asides from the venue change, the delegate package remains the same.

Commenting on the news, Women in Dairy Manager Romany Marshall said: "Next week's Women in Dairy conference will be one of the biggest yet, with over 100 delegates currently booked to attend.

"We are thankful to Churchfields Farm for being able to host our conference at such last minute, and are looking forward to welcoming everyone for a day of networking and inspiring and motivational talks."

This year's conference theme, 'Motivation for Change,' is designed to help delegates take that next step and push the barriers.

Speakers include renowned Clinical Psychologist Dr Hannah Vickery, DairyLink Managing Director Barbara Griffiths, Becca Cavill from Boehringer Ingelheim and Meg Lawrence, a Vet Tech at Tyndale Vets.

The address for the new venue is Churchfields Farm, Salwarpe, Droitwich WR9 0AF.

Tickets are still on sale for the event and can be can be purchased at womenindairy.co.uk/conference, where there is also more information on the conference. Women in Dairy members receive a 25% discount on the ticket price.

About RABDF
RABDF is the sole UK charity focussed on the unique needs of milk producers. They are the only dairy organisation holding a Royal Warrant, with the influence and access to funding that brings.

How sheer grit, determination and passion helps single mother turn life around

From being a single mum and working five jobs to make ends meet to becoming the owner of many successful businesses, Barbara Griffiths has certainly had her fair share of ups and down. However, despite the bumps in the road, she has never given up, with sheer grit and determination leading to her success.

In 1998, a chance meeting with a former employer and colleague gave Barbara the first steps into the dairy industry, taking on a role as School Milk Facilitator for the School Milk Research Project. Although it was only on a ten-month contract, Barbara took the gamble and moved from the lift company where she was working.

"It meant I could work 10 hours a week less, but for more money. This allowed me time to work five other jobs to help make ends meet. I needed to keep my house; it was my children’s home and it was this necessity that drove me to do five jobs," she says.

At her lowest point, Barbara recalls the boiler bursting and having to heat pans of water for herself and her daughters’ every morning for school and work for around 9 months of the year over the winter months as she couldn't afford to have the boiler replaced, also borrowing oil filled radiators for heating.

"My motivation to continue came from desperation and necessity in the beginning," she says.

"I've always had a little bit of 'I can do it myself' attitude, and I think that's something that runs in the family. My grandma owned a sweet shop and two of my aunties had their own businesses, so I came from a family of very strong women.”

Barbara's job as School Milk Facilitator catapulted her into the dairy industry. She was successful at what she did, helping work with dairies to get milk into schools.

"It was a job I found so rewarding and being able to help little children spurred me on. For example, some children were being sent to school without breakfast. You could see that their parents were doing their best, so the mid-morning milk scheme was a necessity for those children."

Since that first foray into the dairy industry, Barbara has dedicated her working life to helping facilitate milk in schools.

She worked for Tetrapak where she grew milk consumption in schools in England and Wales, and then went on to look after the education side of the business for ACC Milk Cooperative and then Dairy Farmers of Britain (DFOB). At DFOB, she was promoted to Head of Local Government Procurement completing and submitting all the Local Education Authority tenders for milk into schools.

When DFOB went into receivership, Barbara was made redundant, but she used the opportunity to develop a much-needed service to help small dairies and milkmen to be part of big tenders for local authority and school milk contracts by setting up Dairy Link.

"Milkmen in Northumberland contacted me and asked if I would tender for them. So that was the start, and I slowly grew from there, with support from the supplying dairy and distributors”.

However, setting up her own business was not without its challenges. Over the first few years, Barbara admits the company struggled with several knockbacks and financial strains, eventually leading to her accepting a loan from a major competitor.

"I had an extensive knowledge of school milk and working with school caterers, so I knew I could make it work. But I still had a mortgage to pay and being dog-minded meant I didn't want anyone to get the better of me."

Barbara says she did tender after tender and had to jump through hoops, with many unsuccessful results. This was mainly because she had no ‘backing’ and history of trading, which was disheartening after the countless days she spent working on them.

However, the turning point came when she gained a place as a nominated supplier on a huge framework contract for TUCO (The University Catering Organisation) which then opened doors to several Local Education Authority contracts.  That allowed her to grow the team and she now employs seven people.  Following on from this in 2017 came the success of winning the Hertfordshire contract which was when she eventually received full recognition in the industry from many of her male counterparts.  “I won the Hertfordshire Contract from Muller, which was quite an achievement for such a small business as ours”.

She now has contracts for a range of councils serving milk to 55,000 children daily and working with hundreds of milkmen nationally.

She has also since established a sister company, Milk4Life, which claims government money for free school milk. She also started a milk round in lockdown, bought a café in South Wales and is now starting a small business making Staffordshire oatcakes.

She adds: "there certainly have been many challenges over the years, but I've always been driven to succeed in business and life, trying to break down any barriers that I came across and to ensure that my daughters had a good future to look forward to”.

“My advice to anyone struggling is not to give up. Instead, sit down and examine what the positives are in your life, what money you need to bring in and focus on those positives and how you can get out of the mess.

"Many people may think they've lost, and things can spiral down. Don't go down that path. Keep your visions going and talk to people that can help you. Believe in yourself," she adds.

A host of other motivational speakers will join Barbara at this year's Women in Dairy Conference titled 'Motivation for Change'. Tickets cost £55 (+VAT and booking fee). Discounts are available for groups, students and NFYFC members. Women in Dairy Members receive a 25% discount. For more information, visit www.womenindairy.co.uk 

High profile speakers feature at this year’s Women in Dairy

This year's Women in Dairy Conference on 28 September at Sixways Stadium, Worcester, features high-profile speakers who will be helping inspire and motivate attendees on their personal and business journeys. 

 

Clinical Psychologist Dr Hannah Vickery will lead a workshop session to support attendees to reflect on the motivations of themselves and their staff; to develop their skills as empowering, motivating leaders who inspire teams to take a solution-focused approach to challenges.

 

Hannah is a Clinical Psychologist, accredited Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) therapist, and the current Director of Training at the Charlie Waller Institute, which offers award-winning training and research in evidence-based psychological treatment. 

 

She is passionate about helping individuals develop their skills and inspiring them to take on new challenges. She says: "I am a strong supporter of women in farming, being the wife of a vet and niece of a dairy farmer and want to empower attendees to have the confidence to make changes or take the next step in their career or personal journey."

 

Other speakers include Fran Edmunds, Head of Grants, Payment-by-Results & Labelling, Animal Health and Welfare Pathway at Defra. She will be discussing her work and the latest developments within the department. 

 

Fran heads up policy development for multiple components of Defra's Animal Health and Welfare Pathway, leading teams which are focused on grants, payment-by-results and labelling. Her team also specialises in providing advice on farm animal welfare and co-designing with the industry.

 

Barbara Griffith from DairyLink will share her inspiring journey from Dairy Farmers of Britain (DFOB) to founding DairyLink UK. This company focuses mainly on providing primary school milk to children around the UK using local farmers, processors and distributors. 

 

Barbara has been in the dairy industry for over 24 years, working for much of this time with schools and caterers. She will be discussing her work and what has inspired her on her journey to make changes in the industry. 

 

Tickets to the Women in Dairy Conference cost £55 (+VAT and booking fee. Discounts are available for groups, students and NFYFC members. Women in Dairy Members receive a 25% discount. For more information, visit www.womenindairy.co.uk/conference

Early bird tickets on Sale for Women in Dairy ‘Motivation for Change’ Conference

Discounted early bird tickets are now on sale for this year’s Women in Dairy (WID) ‘Motivation for Change’ Conference on 28 September, Sixways Stadium, Worcester. 

Until 31 July, tickets are at the discounted rate of £50+vat+booking fee, with Women in Dairy members receiving a 25% discount on the ticket price. 

This year renowned clinical psychologist Dr Hannah Vickery, Director of Training at the Charlie Walker Institute, Reading, will lead motivational workshops equipping delegates with the skills to help them meet their goals. 

She will discuss how delegates can motivate themselves and their team and the benefits they can bring to a business. 

This year’s conference is designed to help delegates take that next step and push the barriers. 

Women in Dairy patron and conference chair Di Wastenage said: “Focussing on motivation will allow us to explore how we can find the energy and drive to set new goals. Everyone is on their own journey and having a plan for yourself and your business can bring tremendous personal and business rewards. 

“We want this conference to be thought-provoking, and whether delegates are looking for personal motivation or the tools and skills to motivate their team, this conference will help. It also provides a safe place for people to share their own experiences,” she added. 

The one-day conference will also feature motivational talks from DairyLink Managing Director Barbara Griffiths, who will discuss her journey from working at Dairy Farmers of Britain (DFOB) to where she is now. In addition, Becca Cavill from Boehringer Ingelheim and Meg Lawrence, a Vet Tech at Tyndale Vets, will also look at how you can motivate yourself and your team to improve calf health. 

The conference is also a great networking event for women in the industry, with refreshments and lunch provided. 

Tickets for the event at Sixways Stadium, Worcestershire, can be purchased at womenindairy.co.uk/conference, where there is also more information on the conference. 

Why join Women in Dairy?

Women in Dairy (WID) has been gaining traction since it was established in 2015, with member numbers and regional groups increasing yearly. With many face-to-face events kickstarting again this year, including the popular WID Conference in September, we speak to some members to find out what being a part of this group offers them.


Rosie Chandler, attends the Staffordshire WID Group

I joined WiD around the time it was launched. I participated in a "Fresh Start" course coordinated by RABDF when I moved home to join the family farming business (having spent 20 years working as a lawyer). Having just joined the industry, I was interested in meeting other women who were already forging a career in the dairy industry and learning from them. There are some really inspirational people involved in the group (Di Wastenage, Abi Reader, Karen Halton, to name just a few).

WID allows learning from your peers in a friendly and supportive atmosphere. It's a great place for knowledge sharing and gathering hints and tips. The monthly Zoom sessions held during lockdown were really good too, there were some fantastic presentations and it was good to meet people from across the country involved in the group.

WID allows me to meet up with other people in my area working in the industry. Also, the annual conferences are excellent, a great day out and attract excellent speakers. Heather Wildman is probably still my highlight.

Why join WID?

Farming can be all-consuming, so it's great to be prompted to take a bit of time out away from the farm. Whether it is for a social event, a farm walk or a presentation, you will always learn something and it means a lot to have a local network of people to connect with.


Isabel Moore, attends the Lancashire and Yorkshire WID Group

I joined WID in 2020. It's a very positive group to be part of, recognising that women have an integral role in many farming businesses and the wider industry.

Being a member has many benefits. The annual conference is a highlight. The online conference during the pandemic was impressive, with some brilliant speakers. Having a speaker such as Dr Nina von Keyserlingk (a highly influential professor in animal welfare) on the line-up demonstrates this group's influence.

WID is a great place to meet people. The first in-person meeting since Covid was a great networking opportunity. It has been nice to meet people in person that I'd only seen on a screen before!

Why join WID?

Women are doing great things in the dairy industry; being good farm staff, managing the farm, working in the allied industry, as I do, or doing international research. It's been a long time coming, but this group can help change perception and raise women's profiles in dairy.


Helen Whittaker, attends the Lancashire and Yorkshire WID Group

I have only recently joined WID (but have been meaning to do it for at least two years!). As women in dairy, we need to get together, make new friends, and take time to discuss relevant issues with like-minded people. I have been to two meetings (one virtual) and one in person and found them informative, friendly and a great place to socialise.

Why join WID?

Ours isn't an easy industry at the moment with all the negative publicity on TV and social media, so meetings like these are fab.


Message from WID Patron and founding member Di Wastenage, MBE

Women in Dairy was set up to bring like-minded people together to talk about the softer side of farming- topics such as succession planning, business and personal development, HR skills and market conditions. We also balance that out with more practical on-farm skills.

It's essential to recognise the skills set around the kitchen table and value those conversations, which is why bringing them together at meetings is important.


About WID

Women in Dairy is an initiative from The Royal Association of British Dairy Farmers (RABDF), designed to bring women working in our industry together through regional discussion group meetings to learn, network and promote the image of dairy farming.

Our aims are:

· Connect – Bringing women together from across the dairy industry.

· Share – Exchange knowledge and experiences to develop skills and confidence.

· Inspire – Encouraging innovative thinking and vision for the future of UK dairy.

WID operates through a network of regional groups, which focus on various topics chosen by the groups. Joining is a great way to meet other women in your local area, learn and share skills and get involved in something new.

Each year WID hosts an annual, one-day conference in September. WID members receive a 25% discount on tickets for the conference, among other benefits.

SOPHIE GREGORY NAMED 2021 DAIRY WOMAN OF THE YEAR

Dorset farmer Sophie Gregory was announced the winner of this year’s Dairy Woman of the Year Award, sponsored by HSBC UK, at the Women in Dairy Virtual Conference last month.

In addition to milking 360 cows with 150 followers alongside her husband Tom Sophie spends a lot of time engaging with the wider public. Predominantly using her social media channels and working with schools her aim is to educate people of all ages about the industry. An element of this includes taking part in Farmer Time, an industry initiative aimed at using digital communications to inspire and engage children about the sector and the journey of agriculture from farm to fork.

Sophie and her family have also featured in various Arla videos about farming and take part in Open Farm Sunday doing live videos for their social media pages.

Last year’s award winner, Cheshire dairy farmer Karen Halton, who was part of the judging panel, said all of the finalists were inspirational young ladies but Sophie’s passion and ethos for nurturing and mentoring new talent was second to none.

“She also had a grasp of the business and its finances and came across as a great communicator. Being hands on with the farm alongside bringing up a young family is no mean feat and Sophie makes it her priority to go the extra mile for the benefit of the industry.”

Describing the win as “one of the proudest moments of her farming career” Sophie said it was a shock to be named as a finalist let alone crowned winner.

“If there’s one piece of advice I could give to my younger self I would tell myself to have dreams, work hard, stay focused and surround yourself with good people.

“It’s important to never stop learning but you mustn’t forget to look after yourself along the way.”

With no background of farming Sophie has had to learn on the job. Whilst groups such as Women in Dairy are important to many within the industry Sophie explains how they are a great opportunity to meet people in similar situations, bringing women together to connect and share their ideas. “In such a fast-moving industry it’s important to have as many chances to meet likeminded people, develop skills and ultimately inspire the next generation into farming through what we learn.”

If you are interested in finding out more about Women in Dairy, its local networking groups or the award please visit www.womenindairy.co.uk

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